A wish before going to heaven

“Let’s do it tomorrow!”…but not everyone has the luxury of tomorrow.  For our good friend Nekar, “today is a gift and tomorrow is a bonus”.

Nekar was diagnosed with melanoma five years ago when he was just 41 years old and at the peak of his career.  When the doctor confirmed the diagnosis, the tumor has already spread to the spinal cord and pressing the nerves.

The doctor said he only had 3 months left, but Nekar remained cheerful and believed he need to stay alive to take care of his family and to spread God’s words.  Since then, he had undergone 3 spinal surgeries, 3 rounds of radiotherapy, one cycle of chemotherapy and one cycle of targeted therapy. The tumor continued to grow and killed the nerves leading to his limbs, causing him to be paralyzed from his neck downwards.

Despite his doctor’s dire prediction and all these traumas, Nekar has survived the last 5 winters.  His goal for the remaining days is to live happily with his family (his wife who has to work night shift as a nurse to support the family and his 8-year-old son who is in Grade 3)

Nekar regretted he did not spend enough time with family prior to his melanoma diagnosis.  If he can start all over again, he would spend more time with his family and not at work.  Previously, he travelled all the time on business and rarely spending more than 2 weeks per month at home.  “I barely saw my son before he turned two” he said.

He is not afraid of dying, but felt lonely at times.  ‘Staring at the ceiling in the hospital bed, I feel so lonely.  I want to cry but no tears would come out.  Even if there are tears, I can’t wipe my tears?’ Nekar added.

Hope is very important to cancer patients.  His next dream is to move into a small apartment closer to home so that he doesn’t have to bother his wife, but help his son on homework in the evening.  “This one of the simple things that I can do now”, said Nekar.

We sincerely hope that Nekar can move to his new home in the near future instead of staying in the rehab center.  Fortunately, Nekar is loved by his friends and his church community in Hong Kong.